KS&L 286: Menopause with Grace Part 1

There are books full of information on menopause. What is this so? Why does Menopause happen and what can we do to fix it, or change it or make it go away?
From the time of birth we are changing, constantly evolving into who we will become. As children we look forward to it, as adults, we lament it. However, no matter how we look at it, the only constant we can ever rely on is that we are changing. The issue is one of how do we incorporate grace into all of our changing processes.
Men and women go through menopause. As we change, our need to have all the chemicals in our body to make children begins to turn off. At some point, we just don’t need those elements any more. As awkward as puberty was to turn it all on, so also is the process that turns it all off.
What we do in our youth will determine how well, how gracefully all of us age. The better care we take of our bodies in our youth, the less difficulty we may encounter as we age. What we do comes back to us on the physical, mental, emotional and spiritual level.
Whatever emotional issues came up in our early twenties and thirties will be 1000 times more powerful in our seventies and eighties. This brings up an interesting question. What if we were to deal with our issues when they came up? What if we resolved situations rather than letting them ferment. What if we gave up grudges, hurts and sadnesses? Would aging be far less stressful?
There is an interesting theory that the more emotional work we each do, the fewer physical and emotional problems we will have in later years.
Did you ever notice among the very elderly that whatever emotions defined them as a young person, become quite distilled as they age? The analogy would be perfume. When perfume is new, it has a great and powerful aroma. However, unless it is made with the finest elements and is very pure, it just smells awful as it distills into its most basic elements and eventually becomes concentrated and overpowering with time.
We are like this. The purer we are in our thoughts, our level of happiness, our willingness to change and our desire to love more, the sweeter our emotional/spiritual fragrance/frequency will be to other people. People will still enjoy being with us no matter what age we are. Like the finest perfumes of the world, time only makes us better and more precious.
However some people are like the perfume not made well that had too many chemicals in it - it did not become better with age - only more bitter. The bitterness/rancidness never leaves the perfume or the person.
Bitterness makes menopause torturous. The greater the sadness and depression, the greater the difficulties the person has. The more emotional work a person has done and the happier they are over all, the fewer symptoms they will have as they age. Emotionally, like that really great perfume, they are ever stable and happy. Stress may evoke an occasional hot flash, but that may be the extent of it.
Many people wonder if all the time and expense will have been worth it to do the deep emotional work to help all the parts of us to heal. As we age, just think, that not only will we not be taking that old “stuff” into the next life, we won’t be taking it into later years in this life either.
Grace is an amazing thing. Grace is the light of inner happiness, the knowledge of delight in a life well lived. Grace goes beyond being a state of mind. Grace is a frequency of love that lifts us up and offers us the opportunity to be happy with ourselves on a profound level. We may each want to ask ourselves if we are filled with Grace. If we are not, then this could become an exceptionally worthwhile quest. It is never too late to find Grace. Grace is the compassionate heart that beats with a delight in family and friends. Grace profoundly mitigates the affects of menopause because Grace allows us to embrace change with a happy heart. Getting older with Grace is becoming wiser in the most wonderful spiritual sense. We earn Grace. No one can give it to us. We have to find it inside ourselves, and once we do, we develop a profound love of life and the people who populate that life.
Finally, Grace raises our frequency to a wonderful level. It is with that level that we will leave this incarnation and it is hopefully with this earned level of Grace that we can enter the next life.
What if a person feels that life has dealt them a terrible hand? How can they ever find Grace? The desire has to live within each of us. Change is either forced on us because we did not embrace it with Grace or it is offered to us to embrace with Grace. No matter what has happened to us, we are all going to be offered the same choices. Only we can decide just what kind of light will live within us and Grace our process of leaving this life eventually.
Part 2 will discuss some interesting things that mitigate Hot Flashes!