KS&L 284: The Spiritual Philosophy of What Constitutes a Good Mother Part 1

No matter where you come from, somehow you are born with a spiritual philosophy on what constitutes a good mother. And, when your mortal mother does not live up to that spiritual philosophy, you begin to stack up her failings. Sometimes you
identify a difficult dad, but about 99% of the time, you instantly recount the failings of your mom. Why is this?

When you are in the heaven world, you look down on the parents you pick. If you can, you try to communicate with your mom. You also have a unique vantage point in the heaven world of seeing all the kinds of moms out there and getting a good handle on what a fantastic mom should be. When you are born, you are sure you know what a good mom should be, and you are exceptionally sure of how to identify a bad mom.

The spiritual philosophy of what constitutes a good mother transcends all religions, all cultures and all times. A good mother, it turns out is a good mother in all types of adversity. While there are nuances, these are the most universally accepted traits of a good mother.

A good mother is the provider of unconditional love. She may not love what you do, but she will always love you, no matter what!

A good mother is courageous. She will stand up for you, will defend you from injustice and she will sacrifice herself for you because her love is so tremendous.

A good mother is a leader. This woman will use the love and the courage that she has in abundance, to always show you the way to be the finest person you can possibly be. She leads you by her example and her example is always virtuous, wise, patient, and dynamic. You won’t want to mess with this Mom!

A good mother is respected, she is so respected, you behave out of respect for her.

A good mother is always wise. She always knows the right thing to do in any situation and she knows her children better than they know themselves. She can balance her marriage, her life and her children and all the dramas that come up each day.

A good mother is powerful. She makes things happen; you may not know how she does it, but she can do anything from inspire you to learn your multiplication tables, to making a Dorothy or Tin Man costume on 24 hours notice. She also knows how to work the school system so that somehow even bad teacher situations work out.

A good mother understands the need for boundaries and discipline and administers this requirement with the utmost fairness. She doesn’t let you get away with a thing and when she says something, she means it. She follows through with discipline and she keeps her word.

A good mother is a healer of everything from broken hearts and shredded feelings, to banged up heads and scraped knees. She can feel what you need and knows just what to say or do to make the situation feel better.

A good mother can cook, not just a little, but really create fantastic meals and desserts and best of all, birthday cakes! She understands nutrition and always provides just the right combination of healthy meals, snacks and treats.

A good mother takes care of herself by always looking like you can be proud of her, dresses well, does hair and makeup and is healthy. She doesn’t drink or smoke and she is slim and trim.

A good mother is psychic. She can just feel when you need her. She can feel that something is wrong. She hears your thoughts and she just knows.

A good mother is accomplished, polished. She can help with homework, manage all the administrative work of running a household, do all the shopping, find bargains, decorate perfectly, have style and poise, and endless energy. She may also have a career outside the home.

A good mother never ‘leaves’ you. She is always available to you, rain or shine, no matter how tired she may be, she is there.

A good mother is an example of compassion, caring and strength of character. She keeps her word. She means what she says.

A good mother admits her mistakes and apologizes when she is wrong. This is not an oxymoron. Even good mothers make mistakes.

A good mother does not allow teasing between and among siblings. She fosters love among all the members of the nuclear and extended family. She reminds her children that they will not be children forever and that they will need each other as adults and that the love they establish between themselves today will last a lifetime.

A good mother does not have favorites, loving her children equally.

A good mother is also a different mother to each of her children based on their individual personalities.

A good mother demonstrates how to be a good wife and what a good marriage looks like.

A good mother keeps everything in balance, for without balance, families do not work.

A good mother uses good judgment all the time.

A good mother has future site, understanding that what happens today will dramatically affect tomorrow and all the tomorrows to come.

A good mother is a wonderful teacher, helping you learn self-esteem, confidence and how to learn from your mistakes without feeling stupid or guilty.

A good mother respects your space, your choices and your friends. She welcomes your friends.

In part two, the face of real mothers and why so few mothers make it to the perfect category of really good mothers. Hint: sometimes life happens to them!