KS&L 335 The Words You Leave Behind

At this time of the year, it is especially important to remember the thoughts below when we are tired and stressed!

What words will you leave behind when you walk away from someone? We live in a world where people have a tendency to be politically correct or so we think and yet at the same time, people just say the strangest things to someone and wonder why that person gets angry, hurt or depressed.

Let us look at a very powerful and important metaphysical principle: all thought is magic. All thought is energy. Words and actions are thoughts made manifest.

When we edit what we say, we are cognizant of the power of the words we use when we speak to someone. People frequently are careful about what they may say to or about someone like their boss, but find themselves utterly thoughtless when it comes to speaking to family members. Some parents deliberately project their pent up anger at their children with seldom a care for the impact that those words are going to have on that child.

Words can be like time bombs. Many a grieving person has rued the last words that they said to someone, wishing desperately to be able to ‘take back’ those last angry or hurtful words. Sometimes we do have to display anger to let someone know how powerfully we feel about something. Yet we would be wise to consider how those angry words are going to impact the person over time.

Consider this routine exchange. A mother and child are in line at the grocery story. Someone says something to the child, like how cute she is, or they like the child’s dress. The supposedly proud mother immediately says, oh, she is just such a bad child. She is a mess. Then she looks at the child and says, ‘You know what I mean.’ The person in line can see immediately how humiliated the child is in front of the stranger. Even if the mother acts as if it is funny, the child feels the sting of shame. More often than not, the mother says hurtful words to the child routinely. Those words become time bombs and as the child grows up, the negativity of those words will be like silent torturers for the child. The parent will probably wonder why the child lived up to the parent’s limited and toxic expectations.

Spouses do the same thing to each other. Each spouse or partner wants the other to be kind and diplomatic but that person does not always hold himself or herself up to the same high expectation.

We have choices each day in what we can choose to say and how we can choose to say it. Sometimes bluntness is in order, but in a limited way. In the military the wisest military leaders only give direct orders in times of emergencies.

Courtesy is the grease that makes day-to-day encounters go smoothly. Little courtesies make people feel appreciated, especially those who feel they are the unseen and unappreciated service and/or care givers. A simple ‘thank you’ for a nice job or a ‘would you please’ go a very long way in making anyone feel appreciated.

The words each of us leave behind may not seem important at the time we spoke them, but the echo of their impact, like a pebble in a pool, will be felt for quite a while.

Spiritual Holiday Gift Ideas

Essential Oils:
Lavender [Lavendula Agostoflia] – for healing
Sweet Orange Oil – for freshening a room
Frankincense – for spiritual upliftment and protection
Myrrah - for spiritual upliftment and protection
Rose – for raising frequency
Sweet Balsam Fir – for clearing
Thyme – for healing
Clove – for healing
Virtually any essential oil is a great gift

Salt:
Bar of Salt for traveling
Salt Scrub – for removing daily negativity
Salt Lamp – for mitigating electromagnetic energy in home or office
Salt or ‘fire’ bowls also mitigate electromagnetic energy

Bach Flower Remedies:
Rescue Remedy – for balancing stress
Rescue Energy – for perking you up during the day
Rescue Sleep – for rebalancing and calming the energy of the day
Rescue Remedy Pastilles in Blackberry to keep in a car or office drawer
Holly – for protection from negativity
Agrimony for those who are struggling but put on a brave face.
Star of Bethelehem – for those who are grieving
There are many more, but these are the most universally helpful.

Cayce Remedies:
Caster Oil – can be used as a carrier oil for essential oils to be used on your feet.
Radiac Machine http://www.baar.com/Merchant2/merchant.mvc?Screen=PROD&Store_Code=001&Product_Code=100
Cold Coins: http://www.baar.com/Merchant2/merchant.mvc?Screen=PROD&Store_Code=001&Product_Code=5021

Books for your Spiritual Library:
The Lightworker’s Guide to Healing Grief by Tina Erwin
Power vs Force by David Hawkins M.D. Ph.D.
Change Your Brain Change Your Life by Daniel G. Amen, M.D.
The Holy Zohar Pocket Edition
The Urantia Book
A Course in Miracles
The Finding of the Third Eye by Vera Stanley Alder
The Game of Life by Florence Scovil Shinn
The Profit by Kahlil Gibran
The Mozart Effect by Don Campbell
Medicine Quest by Mark J. Plotkin Ph.D.
The Place We Call Home by Robert J. Grant
Any books by Thich Nhat Hanh

Miscellaneous Products that are Helpful
Eye Mask to keep out the light and facilitate sleep
Mozart CD’s especially Sonata for two Pianos
Blue Ant for hands free phone in your car
Quartz crystals for raising frequency and enhancing beauty.
Crystal singing bowls
Black Tourmaline for spiritual protection - any size.
Night Lights with green light bulbs for peace in the sleep state.
Bottles of Noni, Mangosteen or Acai juice for healing the body.
Super dark chocolate for an antioxident lift.

KS&L 334 Holiday Cards

It is hard to believe that the Christmas holidays are here again. The Jewish Festival of Lights has also begun. While there are lots of faiths not represented in this title, this is the month of special celebrations for these two faiths.

There are many concepts of loving and sharing that symbolize this time, maybe the best symbol is just love. While pondering the concept of love, perhaps we should consider why people send out holiday cards. Why do some people send a card with a printed address and signature? Is it just routine, another chore to send cards or to give a gift or gift card? Perhaps it is not. To be on a card or holiday gift list is to be thought of with a special feeling. Maybe we do not send cards to people we see each day which is OK. We send cards to people in our lives that we do not see, because something about the connection is special and we do not want to break it. Maybe the karma is not yet exhausted and we keep it going with our cards and often e-mails.

Creating a card for someone, perpetuates a connection, letting him or her them know that they are still in our thoughts. Why is this important? It is important because there is a part of us that wants to stay connected to so many wonderful people. This is why from a Feng Shui view, saving those cards, saving all of those tremendous wishes is saving, honoring the intentions of all the people who spent the cost, the time, the effort and the intention of sending something to us, of thinking of us. Perhaps we have wondered why we bother with cards each year. Maybe, we need that connection, maybe we need to now what things are happening in other people’s lives, that there is a lot of life going on all over the place.

Holiday newsletters seem irritating to some people, but again, someone reflected on their year. They shared their lives with us. Some newsletters are just perfect. Some reflect the challenges that this year posed including the death of a family member and the impact of fires or floods or tornados. Most people reflect on the milestones of their year, their travels - how they explored life this year - and how they interacted with family and friends. When we read these letters, we see life happening all around us, from the ordinary and the mundane to the electric moments that challenge us.

So perhaps as we reflect on all the festivities and organization required of the holiday time, we can come to understand that creating a holiday atmosphere free from strife, comfortable, beautiful with cards, food and gifts is a great service, not a chore. Love comes in many forms and all the effort we put into giving of our time and effort really does matter in the most subtle and humble ways. Often the effort alone is a gift - the gift of love we give each other. Ha