Next we will look at negative role models and the powerful roles they play in your life. Remember the schoolyard bully - you know who he is - you well remember how humiliated he made you. He always instilled fear in you with his intimidating and abusive power. Or perhaps you wince when you recall the mean girl in school. She was a role model of what shallow, pitiful, petty, power looked and felt like. You and the rest of the world will always be reminded of the hated schoolteacher who was so cruel that you could not believe she was allowed to have access to children. Sometimes your negative role model was a cruel sibling, parent or grandparent. Family members have a tendency to teach us often, bitter lessons of what toxic behavior looks and feels like.
All of these personalities are each tremendously important role models of behavior that can hurt and harm. However, it is important to remember, that karma never wastes any energy and the energy of that experience happened for a critical reason.
That purpose was to teach you to stand up for yourself, to learn to find your strength and courage. However, if you did not learn that lesson at home or in school, the lesson repeated itself in college with the abusive professor or roommate, or even boy or girlfriend. Still didn't learn that lesson of standing up for yourself? Then your brutal spouse or boss would be put into a role to keep trying to teach you. Still didn't learn that lesson? Wait, do you see the pattern here? Karma put each negative role model in front of you to teach you a lesson and each time you walked away from the lesson, karma put a new teacher in front of you. Did you notice that the lessons kept getting harder and harder?
In this scenario with very negative, toxic role models, karma used each person as a teacher for you and when you choose to ignore the lesson, instead of understanding that it was a lesson for your higher good, you decided to become a victim personality. “Why me?” you probably asked, “What did I ever do to deserve this?”
One of the key elements to consider is that when a student is ready, a teacher is placed in front of them. Sometimes that teacher is malicious, perhaps even brutal. However, if you want to learn how to stand up to that merciless person, you have to seek out a positive teacher to help you. The synchronicity of finding that teacher is not merely serendipity but spiritual timing at its finest.
When this person appears, you will be most wise to see if you can recognize him or her and take full advantage of the offer of help.
Karma is always fair, always just even when it does not seem that way. You know intimately who your negative role models are, but ask yourself, did you recognize the fact that karma also placed inspiring role model(s) in your path? Did you allow the detrimental people in your life the power to cripple your life or did you use those same people as steppingstones to climb the mountain of life with strength and courage as well as love as compassion?
We come for spiritual growth in each life and difficult people are placed in front of us for the purpose of helping us to grow, not merely to harm us. Sometimes, your facing them with inner power and fortitude teaches them a lesson. You are teaching them that they cannot continue to behave in this fashion. Ultimately you become a tool of karma for the other person’s growth as well. Karma never wastes a moment of energy, neither yours nor anyone else’s.
In part 3, we will explore positive role models!
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