KS&L 313 Why God DOesn't Always Give Us What We Ask For Part 2

God does not always give us what we ask for; he gives us what we inherently need to make us stronger.

How do our choices affect our interaction with God? We know that what we fear the most we inevitably attract to ourselves. God provides us with an experience so that we can learn how to be less fearful. If we are really strong, and brave that fear, we may have the possibility of not having to face that fearful situation again. While we may not have to face that particular one again what often happens is that we are tested to see if we genuinely learned the lesson. Sometimes we are tested repeatedly with variations on a theme, especially if we absolutely must get this right.

A great example is learning to stand up for ourselves. This is a critical lesson to learn. If you get to learn it as a child, then the occasions for demonstrating this ability as an adult will be less challenging. In many cases you may be called upon to show someone else how to stand up to a tough situation, especially if you are a most courageous person. Learning to stand up for yourself teaches you that you are a courageous person and then this inner faith shines out and you can become an inspiration for others.

In other learning scenarios that make us stronger, difficulties are placed in our path so that we can learn to question why something is happening to us. We can use a problem in our lives to learn to have a different perspective as the following example shows.

There was the curious story of the woman who was utterly terrified of snakes, specifically rattlesnakes. Throughout her life she encountered this species of snake. She described meeting the snakes on hiking trails, in parking lots and of finding them in her garage. She once found one in her house. At no point in this bizarre scenario did it ever occur to her to ask herself why she kept encountering rattlesnakes. She just decided that she was inherently unlucky.

Perhaps the obvious lesson was to ask why she was having this experience with this type of snake instead of just shrugging it off to bad, scary luck. Maybe God was giving her the experience she needed to grow into a less fearful person. Another possibility is perhaps she needed to look around her and see who was being untrue to her, who was acting like a snake to her. A key element in the lesson was to look at the signs and symbols in her life.

When we don't need a lesson anymore it stops happening. When we don't need the experience of certain types of people in our lives they will no longer be with us or have an influence on us. Literally God offers us personally unique lessons of all kinds. As we willingly embrace each learning opportunity we evolve as souls.

Maybe it has nothing to do with whether or not God 'never gives us more than we can handle' as much as it is that God gives us the lessons/experiences that we require to grow as souls.

Can't seem to land that job you want? Can't seem to get a financial break? Consider that there may be something very negative going on in your life. Sometimes you have to analyze what may be happening esoterically before you can move forward. Sometimes you have to change your perspective to make it all work, which may have been the point in the first place. Here again maybe you need to look at life differently.

Thank goodness God doesn’t always give us what we think we want. Blessedly God gives us the lessons we can use to grow and learn. It is in those challenging occasions of difficulty that we truly are allowed to use our spiritual muscle and learn how to grow as souls.