KSL 373 Fear is a Parasite part 1 by Tina Erwin

Fear is a parasite. It robs you of all of your power, making you its slave.

If fear were visible, it would look like a blood-sucking worm that attaches to the inside of your stomach and takes the nourishment meant for your body.

Fear robs you of your total sense of self. When you are afraid, you truly aren’t yourself. Perhaps you don’t know fully who you are, but when you look in the mirror and see this fearful person, there is a part of you that hates who gazes back.

Fear robs you of energy.

Fear robs you of sleep.

Fear is exhausting.

Fear makes you its puppet on a string, controlling your actions and your thoughts.

Fear causes you to say and do things that you hate but you feel powerless, powerless to change.

Are we powerless? Can we detach fear from our lives?????

Fear is a necessary part of our lives, and it offers us an opportunity to be courageous. Without the balance of fear, courage has no meaning.

Courage is action in the face of fear. Courage/fear puts you in that place where you can choose what you will be: courageous or fearful. These critical life elements are the epitome of free will. We can choose.

Fear can be a parasite, but it doesn’t have to be.

Fear can rob you of sleep, control and your sense of self, but it doesn’t have to do that.

Fear can teach you how to be courageous if you are willing to learn.

When you have learned the lesson(s) that fear is here to teach, then fear can simply leave you. When you don’t need the lesson anymore, it ceases because the karma of the experience is exhausted.

This, of course, begs the question of learning how to remove fear or at the least, keeping the natural elements of fear in balance. The natural elements of fear include the simple things like looking before you cross the street, washing your hands before you eat or when you leave a dirty place. Fear reminds you to lock your car doors and your house when you go to bed or when you leave your home. Fear cautions you not to go to certain places or do certain things because they are inherently dangerous. Fear, in balance is a good companion, an important friend. Fear, when approached correctly can be that still small voice in your head that blessedly guides you out of harm’s way.

Fear becomes a parasite when it is allowed to completely overtake your life, when you wake up and go to sleep with fearful thoughts in your head. It’s almost as if you become possessed by someone or something else and you cannot get the doo loop of obsessing, fearful thoughts out of your consciousness. Literally, you become a prisoner of your own fear.

Part Two will Discuss healing this level of fear!

Healing this level of fear is a multi-stage process. One of the subtle elements of this is that every single time fear zaps your mind, a tiny squirt of adrenaline is released. So imagine that throughout your day, you are getting a steady stream of adrenaline. When is that ever washed out of your system? Physically, your body becomes profoundly acidic. An acidic body is ripe for illness. An acidic body is one with a lower vibration, a lower frequency. The higher your frequency, the better your health and the more alkaline your body will be. It takes work to shift this.

1. The first step is to use Bach Flower’s Rescue Remedy every single time that fearful thought enters your head. Throughout the day, drink water with Noni juice in it. Noni is a blood cleanser and will pull that adrenaline buildup out of your body so you can begin to think clearly. You can’t break the cycle if you can’t stop the adrenaline from slowly poisoning you. It is almost impossible to sleep if you are full of adrenaline so this first step is critical.

2. The second step is to own your fear. Look at the worst that can happen and then decide to work through what if this really happened. Go through every single step. Write it down. Give your fear form and structure with pen and paper.

3. Now completely feel the emotion of the potential reality of what if this really happened. How would you feel? Allow yourself to cry. Grieve it. See what it could potentially feel like.

4. In this step, you can look at what you have written and analyze what you can change. You cannot change anyone else, you can only change yourself, so look at what in the entire scenario you can actually change. Evaluate if the dire outcome you so profoundly feel could just possibly have a different outcome. What if what you see written, could be different? Can it be changed?

a. If you are fearful for a military member overseas, then realize that there is very little you can physically offer that person. That is a reality. What you can offer him or her, is your positive thoughts, your profound love and your dedicated prayer for their safety. This is prayer said in courage, not in fear. This means that you are creating another reality, one where you see your loved one get off the plane, swoop you up and smile back at your astonished face. Create this positive reality.

b. If you are fearful of a problem or a person in your life, look at how you can change the situation. Get outside advice if you have to see a different path. Take charge of your life. Change yourself.

c. Fear for children, how they will turn out, who will care for them if they are mentally disabled or how will a child manage without you if the situation occurred can be handled with logic and planning. These do not have to be fearful thoughts.

The point in all of the processes above, is to own your fear, take back our power and unleash your courage on yourself and your situation. No one can do this but you and when you do it, when you take it all the way through and begin to turn that emotional corner, you will experience emotional freedom. All freedom is usually hard won and that is exceptionally true of freeing yourself from fear. Do well. You have what it takes to walk the path of true courage and kick that fear parasite out!

KS&L 372 Finding Moral Courage: The Pawn Has Power!

by Tina Erwin

This particular blog is my personal opinion. I admit to feeling strongly about these issues.

The new age movement often seems all about finding peace, love and enlightenment – on this side of heaven. However, to make mortal life full of love and light, it is incumbent upon each of us to stand up to what is making life not that way. Literally, part of our spiritual test is standing up to what makes things detrimental to all of us. We each have to find the moral courage that lives within us. We can do that in many mundane ways. We as consumer pawns have quite a bit of power!

Lets start about ten years ago when use of a credit card created a carbon with the full number on it. This was a great way to have your card number stolen. I started demanding that stores hand me the carbon and then asked the store every single time, why they didn’t use a carbonless machine and why they had to print out my whole number every time. I think I embarrassed my kids when they were with me. However, surprisingly it didn’t take long for everyone accepting a credit card to go to carbonless machines that blocked out your entire number except for the last four. Who knows how much influence one person can have. I believe there were thousands of us making that same request.

What needs to be changed today? Frankly, I have begun asking the manager of each restaurant I enter to tell me what on the menu is made from Genetically Modified Food. I remind them that GMO food is poison. GMO food, uses Roundup Ready seed. When an insect eats the seed, its stomach explodes. If this is the case, then ask yourself, what is happening in my own stomach when I eat GMO based food? Virtually 99% of corn and soy are GMO. When I am in a restaurant, I ask management what menu items are made from GMO food. I am very polite. I have been surprised at the response. Cracker Barrel said that their corn and green beans are GMO but coleslaw isn’t. The waitress was a student in environmental studies and knew exactly what was GMO and what wasn’t. Another restaurant in Taos, Graham’s Grille said the chef refused to use any GMO products. They were quite proud of that. Especially when a menu item uses corn or soy, I absolutely ask if it is GMO. Even if it makes the waiter or manager uncomfortable if they hear it enough, you can effect change. It’s the only way I can vote: with my voice and my dollar. If management doesn’t know what is GMO, I do not order anything with corn or soy. I also call the home office of the restaurant and ask these same questions. If enough people ask, we can turn the tide.

I have also begun to call, now and then, when I have a spare moment, food companies. Bird’s Eye says they absolutely refuse to use any GMO seed. Orville Redenbacher’s popcorn only uses GMO seed. I have insisted that they label their packages as to GMO or non-GMO. If the company isn’t worried about whether or not someone will buy it, tell them to be honest, label the package. I am one of these consumers who wants to know.

I also only purchase dairy products that do not include RBST which is a growth hormone. If I have to buy a dairy product and I don’t see one with this label ‘No RBST’ on it, I ask the manager. If they don’t have the product I’m looking for that is not contaminated with RBST, I leave empty handed and I explain to the manager why.

I have also begun to ask management why they aren’t including Stevia as a sweetener choice. Islands, a restaurant chain on the West Coast offers Stevia packets as well as one of the only two places to eat in Monument Valley, Goulding’s restaurant. Other restaurants are beginning. Ask for Stevia. Go on line and tell chain management that you want Stevia included as a sweetener option instead of aspertame, which is Equal which we all know is bad for us, or Splenda which is one molecule away from almost pure chlorine.

I do not buy products with High Fructose Corn Syrup in them and I won’t serve those products in my home. Most sweet tea in restaurants is made from HFCS.

In these days, if I had a child, and the doctors insisted on vaccines, I would have a lawyer draw up a legal document requiring the doctor and nurses to sign it. The document would inform them that if my child gets autism or has a bad reaction from a vaccine, I reserve the right to sue the drug company, the doctor and all the nurses. Then I would ask the doctor, is he or she absolutely positive that vaccine won’t cause autism? You can recover from measles, mumps, whooping cough and chicken pox. Autism is a life sentence that affects not just your family, but literally thousands of people who will have to help you along the way. It will take all the money you have to care for one of these kids damaged by a vaccine. . . and it only takes one shot. It’s time to hold doctors accountable. Having personally watched autism strike many families who had perfectly normal kids one day, be utterly disabled the next day, this is a real situation that requires tremendous moral courage. Currently, they are insisting that pregnant women receive vaccines, most of them with mercury. Again, moral courage is required to stand up and say no to these intrusions on the immune systems of our children and our own bodies. Finally, every American has the right to refuse vaccines for themselves and their children, under the Constitution. Do not let schools bully you into forcing vaccines on your children.

I personally will never have a mammogram. I believe to my very core that they have caused the explosion of breast cancer in this country and I am not alone. If your doctor insists, find the moral courage to ask your doctor [if he's male] to have his testicles tested in the same way. Tell him that you’ll do it after you watch him have his testicles tested for cancer by squishing them, bruising them and then irradiating them at point blank range. Also ask your physician if he or she has an ownership stake in the mammogram machine. One woman’s doctor insisted she get a mammogram twice a year and after five years, her hair fell out and her doctor refused to see the connection. Radiation doesn’t leave the body. It accumulates. If you must have your breasts looked at, use Thermography instead. It does not use radiation.

Just maybe, if we can stop the use of GMO products, mammograms, vaccines and growth hormones, we can begin to stem disease, stem the exploding use of drugs and begin to bring our own country back into balance. It will take the efforts of every single one of us. This country functions on how people make money. If less money is to be made by harming us, then perhaps corporations will take a different route, one away from potentially poisoning us.

Consider that it was people complaining about smoking in restaurants that finally got cigarettes out of office buildings, hospitals, airplanes and restaurants. Even Virginia and North Carolina have banned cigarettes from these places. Voters actually overcame the cigarette lobby! Miracles can happen. We can make them happen.

If we remain complacent, then nothing will change. We can each take some action every single day and begin to turn the tide toward less toxic food and medicine in our lives. We may appear to be pawns, but we have tremendous power!

Epilogue: Currently, as I write this in January of 2012, there is a political move to place on the November 2012 ballot in California, a bill to require the labeling of all GMO food. The GMO seed companies will fight this hard. But if voters can overcome the cigarette companies, nothing is impossible!

KS&L 371 The Karma of the Antique

By Tina Erwin

Having discussed some of the interesting elements that can happen when you acquire a piece of antique jewelry, perhaps it is time to turn our attention to other types of antiques and the karma that can attach to those pieces.

Some pieces can be cleared. There is a process for that which I will share at a later time. However, there are some pieces, which simply cannot be cleared because there is way too much karma attached to each piece depending on how it was used and who was using it. There are two different examples we can use: World War II and the Bombing of the World Trade Center on 9/11.

The first is the sheer volume of Nazi items that are left over from the Second World War. These include Nazi weapons, flags, insignia, automobiles, yachts, furniture, and jewelry, including cuff links and collar insignia from SS officers. It would also include clothing, helmets, shell casings, Nazi training manuals and more. All of these Nazi associated items carry with them tremendous karma.

Bluntly, when you own one of these things, you are connecting to the murderous horror of what the Nazi’s did to over six million human beings. But there is more than that. The total death toll of World War II was 73,000,000 human beings. Seventy three million people died in that war. So whatever you own from that war and that could also include Japanese war mementos will connect that owner to the murders and deaths that took place.

Think about the karma of now being directly connected to these horrific deaths by the mementos you own. Consider the following three examples.

• A man had an opportunity to purchase a yacht. It came at an incredibly inexpensive price. He felt he was getting a bargain. However, he was a bit nervous by how desperate the owner was to ‘get rid of it’. Apparently, Herman Goering, who was the architect of Hitler’s murderous plan to exterminate the Jews, and other undesirables from life itself, had owned this yacht. Hitler had ridden on this yacht where plans were made to commit mass murder. The yacht was sold at auction after the war. The first owner of that yacht died a terrible death. His family quickly found someone else to purchase it. This second owner also died and so did several of his family members.

By the time it came to this third owner the man was nervous but he kept thinking he was getting a ‘great bargain’. He asked a very wise man about this potential purchase. Our sage, upon hearing the story of the yacht and who its original owner had been, advised him in the strongest way possible not to go near that yacht, much less purchase it! But the man persisted. Perhaps he was mesmerized by the history of it, whatever the reason, his life very quickly went down hill immediately after he began to own it. One by one his immediate family became ill and then he became terribly ill. However, because he had such a wise friend, he remembered his warning and this third owner got rid of the yacht. Once he did that, he karmically broke his connection to mass murder. He couldn’t believe that this karmic connection could affect him so profoundly but it did.

• Another man purchased a pair of SS cufflinks at an antique show. He had no idea why he bought them. He never wore them, never showed them to anyone and only looked at them now and then. He paid quite a bit for them. However, from the time he bought them, he felt haunted by them. Finally, he also met a psychic who advised to break them in half, and then throw them in the sea. When he had competed these actions, he felt a tremendous freedom, a sense of lightness entered his life. The sense of grey doom that had so haunted him for so many years was finally gone.

• Then there was the woman who purchased – also at auction – an extremely valuable painting, worth hundreds of thousands of dollars. From the moment the painting came into her life, things went from bad to disaster. Her children became ill, her marriage went on the rocks and everything in her life seemed to go downhill. She also sought out a psychic to help her understand what was happening in her life. This person kept seeing a Nazi swastika in her house. The woman hotly denied it. Yet during a visit with this woman, the psychic kept feeling the presence of something from the Nazi’s. Finally the owner brought out her precious painting. The psychic looked at the woman and pointed at the crate that housed the painting. The woman was dumbfounded. There, literally branded into the wood of the crate was the Nazi swastika. Apparently, the painting was one of those stolen by the Nazi’s. Who its rightful owner is, we will never know.

Did the woman get rid of the painting? Ironically, she did not. She was also the same person who lived in a house where the original owner had purchased pieces of a southern mansion from Georgia, where civil war dead were treated. The mansion had been converted into a hospital. Why the owner of this house did this, we will never know, but she had that entire blood soaked floor removed and brought to her house in Virginia. There were other pieces of that house throughout the house she lived in, including the huge pillars at the front door. So now, this woman was not only connected to the karma of the Nazis but also the karma of the Civil War. She did eventually sell the house but her life was always, shall we say, challenging especially since she refused to release her hold on the painting. . . . or maybe the painting refused to release it’s hold on her!

The third example I would use is the metal being reconfigured from the remains of the buildings in the world trade center bombings of 9/11 2001. There is a tremendous amount of karma attached to these buildings and their demise. Owning a piece of that history will not benefit anyone.

When you acquire any object that has been previously owned, it would be wise to learn as much as you can about it. Also consider that if you seem to attract dark things in your life, for heaven’s sake please do not buy antiques. You attract what and who you are. Start to seek out new things, things that do not have karma attached from dark times. Also, understand that just because you are a good person, does not mean that you can ‘clear’ something that has that much karma attached. Leave it alone. Don’t touch it. If a toxic relative leaves you something like this that you know is connected to a terrible past, destroy it. Break the dark magic that is connected with it. It is incredibly important to surround yourself with positive things. Leave the darkness of the past out of your life.

KS&L 368 Family Communications: Being Present for Family Members

by Tina Erwin

Frequently, spouses become ill because they need attention. Sometimes, they become quite ill because the lack of attention over time has built up to such a level that their bodies are turning frustration in upon itself.Sometimes one spouse doesn’t know how to stand up to the other and tell him or her what feelings are building up. Sometimes he doesn’t know the words, or perhaps she is afraid that being direct will damage the relationship.

Sometimes couples let the sheer volume of ‘stuff that has to be done’ distract them from keeping communication lines open.

Sometimes there is just so much family around all the time that it literally becomes impossible for couples to find time for themselves.

These are the times when one partner must find a way to stop the busyness cycle and carve out time to communicate with that person they have vowed to love for the rest of their lives. Perhaps this is why divorce is so prevalent: couples lack the basic skills and courage necessary to create, build, maintain and do maintenance on their relationship.

The first step would be to work on communication skills. If a husband asks a wife if she is OK, just responding with a ‘sure, I’m fine,’ doesn’t help communication. Perhaps a better answer would be: “I have had a terrible day at work, and I need to talk about it. I am irritable, but I am not irritable at you. Would you please mind just listening and being patient with me tonight?”

That is a good first step. Now the husband knows what is ‘wrong.’ He just needs to remember that when his wife blows off steam, it is not necessary for him to ‘go out back and mount that white horse to save the day for her.’ Men have to learn to listen without fixing the problem. Men instinctively go to that place of how they would handle the problem. That isn’t helpful. Husbands have to learn how to listen without interfering. Husbands have to be patient when they listen and ask how they can best help but understand that it is not helpful if they just try to take over the problem for their wife.

Wives need to understand that most men inherently despise confrontation. If you are having a problem with your mother-in-law, demanding that your husband ‘take care of the problem’ will get you absolutely no where and will create larger problems. In cases like this, you and your husband must sit down and discuss the problem dispassionately – not always easy to do – but essential to maintaining your marriage.

Couples frequently are on different planets when it comes to disciplining and maintaining family balance with children. Communication is critical here but what usually happens is that one parent is the ‘good guy’ and one parent, the parent who insists on enforcing the rules, is the ‘bad buy.’ Dads are often putty in the hands of daughters and moms often have a ‘soft spot’ for their sons. Get over it. Parents have to agree on a parenting plan and both parents have to be consistent. This is the essence of good family communication.

Courtesy in families and basic human interaction is the essential lubricant that makes each day work. ‘Please and thank you’ are never assumed. If your teenagers do something responsible, point it out. Thank them for calling if they are going to be late. If your kids own a car, ask their permission before you drive it. Give your kids the same courtesy you demand of them. Keep your word. Stay in a place of integrity. It is important.

People hear you more readily, when you are not angry. They may act on a suggestion or an experiment idea more quickly than a demand or a directive. Listen to what the person really needs.

Listen.

Be patient.

Seek wisdom before you speak and always edit what you say before you say it. Imagine how what you say is going to come across – care about how it will come across. Understand the politics of family situations and respect how important that understanding is. The more you love the person in front of you, the more readily will you be able to go the distance in seeking the best communication at the correct moment.