All
the talking heads of TV and radio are discussing their New Year’s resolutions. They
jokingly discuss the ones they made last year and how and why they were all
broken. Broken New Year’s resolutions represent broken promises to ourselves. Of
course, the worst broken New Year’s resolutions are the ones that people
actually wrote down. This means that they did not honor a written contract they
made with themselves. Some people
do follow through with their resolutions: that is terrific, but for those who
don’t, it may be wise to rethink this whole tradition.
As students of metaphysics we grow more
and more to understand the dynamic interaction between the subconscious and the
conscious mind. The subconscious mind is that part of us that puts into action
what the conscious mind decides to do. Clear messages sent to the subconscious
result in clear action. Muddy messages result in complete confusion by the
subconscious often reflected by illnesses and accidents.
What has this to do with New Year’s
Resolutions? It is just a game - right?
It doesn’t really matter - does it? Of course it really, really does
matter, more than anyone ever realized. The subconscious does not know that a
contract that you make with yourself is not real. To the subconscious,
everything is real until you tell it otherwise.
Standard
New Year’s resolutions include dieting [really, a colossal waste of time],
giving up alcohol and/or tobacco products, spending more time with family,
and/or spending more time taking care of one’s self. Usually resolutions focus
on something we do not like about ourselves, and vow - often in front of other
people and in writing - to change that habit or pattern or abusive behavior. Resolutions
are seldom if ever about positive things. So think about it. We start a new
year off by finding fault with ourselves, vowing to change this fault and then
discovering that we have no real clue how to actually accomplish this and then
we polish off that first class ticket on the guilt train by feeling bad about
what we didn’t accomplish for the rest of the year.
We feel guilty about this because to the
subconscious mind, that commitment was REAL! When the conscious decided that
this resolution was be too hard to accomplish, it said to the subconscious, “oh
well, let’s not do that, it is too tough”. Now the subconscious feels that it has failed because the
personal emotional contract was breached. Where did the energy of this process
go? It was channeled directly into guilt.
Guilt always seeks punishment in some
way. Some ways are so subtle and almost invisible that you may not ever notice
it. Some are blatant.
So
here is a suggestion for a powerful new idea: start each New Year absolutely guilt free. Just enjoy the
year. Just enjoy the people in your life. Take “guilt,” “need to,” “must do,” “should do” out of your vocabulary
and out of your life. Be clear and truly honest in your messages to your self.
Do not make any resolutions - you don’t need them. Develop a positive rapport with your subconscious mind and
discover what a really wonderful person you are!
Happy New Year Everyone!
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