Sunday, July 25, 2010

KS&L 328 The Power of a Handshake Part 1

Have you ever shaken someone’s hand and had an instant connection? Have you ever shaken a hot, sweaty, beefy hand and almost recoiled? Have you ever shaken someone’s hand who could barely grasp your hand, rather like shaking hands with spaghetti? Then there is the handshake where the person grasps about three fingers of your hand and gives it a bit of a squeeze? There is also the handshake where the grasp is so tremendous that you feel as if your hand is being crushed. Finally, there is the handshake where someone grasps your hand fully, but not in a crushing manner and you can feel the strength in the person, as they also look you squarely in the eye.

Think about the last statement: you can feel the strength in the person, as they look you squarely in the eye. This is the handshake that gets your most positive attention. You know it gets your attention, but why? Why is a handshake so powerful in all its iterations?

Perhaps a bit of history will help to understand how powerful and important this seemingly simple gesture is. Back in the mists of time, people understood that the body had power, especially the hands. The power of someone’s hand literally symbolized the power to hurt or to heal, to welcome or to repel. In esoteric circles, the energy centers of the body were always studied and that included the concept of chakras that exist throughout someone’s entire structure.

Chakra means wheel in Sanskrit and the body is covered with many of these, literal energy ‘wheels’. These chakras or energy wheels help to keep the body balanced and energy correctly flowing throughout all the electrical systems. The body electric is critical for life to function. The spark of life begins when the spark plug that is the heart, starts beating. There are other little sparks throughout the body in the chakra centers, in the feet, hands, and along the central trunk line of the body. We process energy through all of the chakras of the body and the meridian lines that connect them. Eventually these chakras and meridian lines are all connected to the ‘main line’ that is the spine or central nervous system. Literally, chakras go to the core of a person’s bioelectrical, emotional and spiritual body.

So, now that you understand, at a basic level, the importance and the function of a chakra, let us return to why a handshake is so important. The palm chakra is a place where energy emanates. People who do hands-on healing, are using the palm chakra to deliver energy to the affected area of a recipient’s body. When they are doing this, frequently, their hands become very hot because so much energy is being poured out through this chakra. When you shake someone’s hand, you are also unwittingly offering the other person a sample of your own energy. This is why you will have a ‘sense about the person you are shaking hands with’.

In ancient times, a handshake was a mystical act and certain aspects of a handshake are still practiced as mystical acts in many secret societies around the world. How you share your hand/palm chakra energy is considered very important. The energy you emanate when you shake someone’s hand tells a lot about you. For example, can you be trusted, are you ‘firm’ in the strength of your character, are you a weak person, are you likely to follow through on tasks, literally, are you what you appear to be?

Even a person who has practiced his or her handshakes ultimately cannot hide their true nature from a person who knows how to sense the other person and who is paying attention. In these times, not everyone is what they seem too be. Sometimes you need the clues, the silent cues that tell you whether you can trust this person or not.

Someone who will not offer you their hand in friendship, will not spend the extra ‘energy’ on a good handshake because they are too busy, distracted or don’t really care, may not be someone you want to do business with or give your business to. Baring a physical problem with someone’s hand, in normal day-to-day human interaction, a strong, balanced, powerful handshake is critical to establishing a climate of trust, respect and hope between two people. Consider that even a child can tell you how they feel about a person when an adult shakes their ‘little’ hand. Many savvy parents actually teach their teenagers how to offer a ‘good’ handshake.

In Part 2, what constitutes a good handshake!

Saturday, July 17, 2010

KS&L 327 Victimhood Part 2

Let us take the concept of having a family member murdered. There are a thousand scenarios. None of them matter. What matters is that you still love the person who died. Every single time you say that your loved one was murdered or was the victim of a crime, you perpetuate the energy of victimhood. When you use these terms, you invite people to see you as a victim. What if you used different terms, just as an experiment? When you have to explain that your loved one died, you can simply say that they passed away. People will still send you their love, but they will not physically recoil at the term ‘murder victim, or suicide.’ These terms alone keep you in that place of pain.

Initially after a horrific event, you do explain in victim terms what happened. However, as time goes by, you may want to consider that not everyone has to know that this terrible event occurred. They can know you without the shadow self of ‘victim’ as part of your relationship with them. This is a choice only you can make and you make it when you decide that you want to remove the term ‘victim’ from your life.

When someone asks you how your loved one died, consider that you have a choice in how your respond. Do you want people to know that your loved one was murdered? Is it necessary? People want to know cause of death. You can respond several ways:

• If your son was killed in a drug related situation, not everyone has to know this. You can honestly say that he was in the wrong place at the wrong time and he died, or you can note that he refused to join a gang and he died.
• If your daughter was attacked and murdered, you can say that she was killed. It is not always necessary to go into the details of her death everytime.
• If you or someone close to you was raped, it may not be necessary to discuss this at all outside of law enforcement. Healing such an intimate crime as rape, may not lend itself to sharing that this event happened to you.
• If your loved one committed suicide, again, it is not always necessary to explain what occurred. If enough time has passed and this person’s death comes up, say that they died. Not everyone needs every detail. If you do have to describe cause of death, you can explain that this person was so profoundly unhappy that all attempts to assist them failed and he or she died.
• If your loved one was murdered helping someone else, simply say that he died as a hero because he was doing just that: helping someone.

The following story illustrates how this can be done and how you can choose to change your life and hope to heal your grief, by speaking of your situation differently.

One Mom told the story of how her wonderful son was murdered, not long after he returned from duty in Iraq. He was helping a young child who had been beaten by his family. An irate family member simply walked up to her son and shot him in front of this abused child. From that point on the Mom saw her son as a victim of violent crime. If he had died in Iraq, he would have been a war hero. But dying on the streets of her city held no honor – or so she thought. What if she were to see that service to another human being is service – period. What if she stopped seeing her son as a victim and began to see him as a hero, which is exactly what he was? Would simply changing the terminology begin to change her perception and help her begin to heal her grief and ultimately regain some of her personal power back? Possibly it will. It is one step in the healing process, but it is a powerful one.

Perhaps the bottom line here is that words have power. The more powerfully shocking the words are, the greater the echo impact they will continue to have on you. You can choose to change those words and begin to regain that power. Nothing can change that the event happened, but you have the power of choice in how you relate to it over the rest of the years of your life.

Friday, July 16, 2010

Essential Oils and Spider Bites

Summer time often brings people into contact with poisonous spiders. I cannot personally vouch for these essential oil spider bit remedies, however I would try them if the situation happened to me. I would also add Noni juice to any poultice I used. Sometimes having these types of tools in your healing tool box can be invaluable. This information is from Rainbow Forever Trust.

Artemis writes: This is a great series of testimonials that has come through from Nancy Sanderson's US newsletter - thank you Nancy!!! The Brown Recluse spider is very similar to our Australian white-tailed spider. Its bite causes necrosis (death) of the body's tissues, and can cause horrendous damage and disfiguration. So if I were bitten by a white-tailed spider, I'd follow a very similar regime to that which is successful for Brown Recluse spiders.

Nancy writes: This was sent to us from Frank Seeley and yes the pictures are hard to look at but you need to know how dangerous poisonous insect bites are. I was bitten by a brown recluse and this is what I did and I didn't go to the doctor but if it had gotten that bad I probably would have. Clint Walker (an Actor) explained why the bites are so dangerous. The spiders need to liquefy their food so they can drink it, and that is the job of the poison to start breaking down the tissue and liquefying it. If you don't get the poison out, it will keep on killing the tissue. This is why it is so important to use Purification to neutralize the poison.

This is the recipe I used for myself when I got bit by a brown recluse
Brown Recluse Spider Bite

1 drop lavender
1 drop helichrysum
1 drop melrose

Apply neat to bite, then add to an oatmeal poultice 5 drops each to draw out the poison. To make the poultice you use warm water and apply just enough to make it stick together and mix the oils in the oatmeal. Apply the poultice and wrap with gauze and leave on until it is drying out and change. After the poultice then apply Purification. This is what I did for myself when I was bitten. At the time I did not know that Purification would neutralize the poison and when it erupted for the third time I called Gary and he told me to use Purification on the bite and it cleared up. - Nancy Sanderson

Kathryn writes: Last week, my husband was bitten by a brown recluse spider. He went to the doctor, but in the meantime, I looked up the email that I received about the brown recluse spider bite. We followed the doctor's orders of placing a wet washcloth over the bite, then plastic wrap and then a heating pad on low, to be kept on all night. We added an oatmeal poultice saturated with Purification. After four days, it had progressed so much that we skipped all but applying Purification neat to the bite. The bite happend 11 days ago. There is a very small bump and some slight redness from the infection caused by the bite, but my husband didn't lose any tissue. I can't thank all of you enough for your testimonials.

Vivian writes: I must have walked into a spider one morning when walking through the basement to do laundry. I felt a sudden sting on my chin and rubbed it. By the time I got upstairs I had a red welt and 4 little holes in my chin. I immediately put the Purification oil blend on it and several hours later tried lavender. I just didn't feel like either one of these oils were quite right. Since I didn't know what I was dealing with I wasn't sure what to do. It still hurt, so a few hours later I tried Melrose and immediately it felt better. I put it on again before bedtime and a.m. and p.m. for 2 more days. It's gone!

Deborah writes: My five year old daughter was bitten on her shoulder by what I believe was a black widow spider. I grew up seeing many of them around were I lived for thirty years, but I had never known anyone to be bitten-until my daughter. There were fang marks accompanied by intense pain and a red cirlce of poison that I could see spreading across her shoulder. I had heard testimonies of oils for brown recluse spiders so I gave it a try. I put a few drops of Purification on the bite and the pain stopped. A few minutes later I checked it and the red circle had stopped spreading. I put on more Purfication. A few minutes later there was no change. The red circle remained the same. I then put on a few drops of lavender. Twenty minutes after the bite her skin was a normal color, smooth and beautiful. Except for the two fang holes, you could not tell that she had ever been bitten. Strange though that a couple of years later the mark of the fangs still remain. They look like two very small brown moles.

Loreen writes: When my grandson complained about something itching on his lower leg one day, I took a close look and saw what looked like an insect bite. It was very red and had a white spot in the middle. I decided it might be a spider bite from a brown-recluse spider. The lesion from a brown recluse spider bite is an irregular sinking patch with ragged edges and surrounding redness and maybe a white spot in the center, and that's what he had. Later the white spot became very dark.

I remember listening to one of Young Living's cassette tapes where Clint Walker describes how he used Basil to stop the skin eating venom from doing any more damage. It can become a deep wound that takes a long time to heal. I put some drops of Basil on the wound and covered it with a cloth bandage. We did this for just two days and it healed up beautifully. Now he just has a very tiny, indented spot on his leg where the bite was.

If you don't happen to have Young Living basil in your house at the time you discover this type of bite, you can also use fresh basil after making a poultice out of it and apply it to the wound and then cover with a some saran wrap and bandage tape. In my mind, this just proves how wonderful nature and the plant kingdom is.

Saturday, July 10, 2010

KS&L 326 Victimhood Part 1

Personal power is that sense of energy, hope, and optimism that lives within you. It is also the personal dynamic of the sheer confidence in your ability to influence the world around you. To have personal power, you have to believe that you live in a basically safe world, that you are healthy and that you are a good person, worthy of the receipt of positive experiences.

But what if something terrible happens to you? What if you are a victim of any type of crime, including fraud, burglary, rape, murder or identity theft? What if a relative commits suicide? What if you are in an accident and you suffer a terrible injury that leaves you unable to function in the world you used to know? What if a debilitating illness strikes you and you cannot be who you used to be, cannot do what you used to do and cannot live the life you used to know?

All of a sudden, in any of the scenarios above, you become a victim of the event. If the event happens to your child, spouse, sibling or parent, especially in a situation where murder or suicide takes place, you are equally affected by the echoing aftermath of this catastrophic and emotionally crushing situation. Sudden death by any means of someone you love leaves you feeling as if someone has taken the very breath of your own life away. Sudden debilitating illness or injury for yourself or someone very close to you, means that the very life you used to have is now gone forever.

Victimhood means that you feel powerless to not only influence what is going on around you, but also to change what has happened. The trauma of the event keeps returning in wave after wave of sickening surrealism. You have to adjust to the reality of the event and then somehow figure out how to live with this gigantic emotional weight that has brought your life to a complete stop. How do you explain to people that your initial fatigue, is staggering? How do you ever feel rested and happy again?

This difficult situation exists all around you in the lives of other people, but you cannot see it because you aren’t meant to see it. It didn’t exist in your world before it happened to you. It happened to other people. Now, you feel alone in your situation. Once the reality of the initial event passes, once you regain some level of footing, you have to decide how to live with the label of victim, for yourself, or the label of victim for someone you love. The point here is that the word victim is just that, a label. But it is an exceptionally powerful label! The word victim, all by itself, embodies the essence of powerlessness, weakness, and cruelty. Life has seemingly dealt you a terrible hand.

Now comes the hardest challenge of your life: changing this dark, sticky, emotionally descriptive and destructive label. Consider that the word itself forces you to see yourself differently, shoves your face into the darkness of the event, over and over. How do you remove the label of being a victim for yourself or a loved one? You have to take your personal power back.

Taking your power back will stop the energy of the words victim and victimhood. It is probably the hardest work you will ever do, and it will take quantities of your energy, but it will be the most rewarding work you will do. Consider that you will have asked yourself a thousand times why this event happened to you, your loved one or family. You may not ever receive the answer that you think you want, a black and white: this is the reason. What you can decide to accept is that you are having a powerful experience and you can take your power back, by deciding with the free will you still have, how you will respond to this life-changing event. The first step is to begin to change the terminology you use to describe the event.

Stay tuned for Part 2

Monday, July 5, 2010

Clearing Items of Negative Energy Comment

Dear Friends, a reader by the name of Dale left me the following comment and I felt that it is applicable to many people. You can check out the original articles, Clearing Items of Negative Energy which are archived KS&Ls #300-302.

"Yeesh, that's a bit scary. I own a number of WWII flying helmets and aviation related articles, some of which are German. Any ideas of what I can do to clear the negative energy as they are very dear to me. Is it worth trying?"

First of all, you have to understand that the items emit negative energy all by themselves if they are displayed or even in a drawer, because they were part of a war that saw the deaths of roughly 73 million people worldwide. The items are tied to the karma of the war and the karma of the deaths of all of those people. That said, if you want to continue to own them and have them in your home, put them in a box lined with aluminum foil, shiny side in [which contains the energy] and then add salt to the bottom of the box which neutralizes the energy. Seal the box and put it away.

It is impossible to clear the energy of items tied to that much karma. Burning sage around it, even burning dragon's blood around it will not help. You have to put them away and neutralize the energy which the steps above describe.

Next you will need to burn dragon's blood to clear your home of the energy of those items. Again, [my opinion based on experience] burning sage is worthless. It smells nice, but has no dynamic power to clear that level of negativity. Even with Dragon's blood you may want to also add the resins of Frankensense, Myrrah and Benzoin. Also, you will probably want to do this once a week for a while. Make sure to open a window to let that negative energy leave.

Some things just cannot be cleared. This is why there are museums, so that all that energy can be left behind when you leave the building, and you do not have to live with it day to day. The energy of war items, pistols, flags, Nazi arm bands is just horrific. If you have those items in your home, you might experience legal problems, water leaks, arguments, and financial problems all because your home is in resonance with the level of negativity that the items emit. Consider that pistols owned by Nazi's were highly likely to have killed literally hundreds of people. Do you really want the karma and the energy of that in your home? Can you spell nightmares? Having that type of item is like opening the gates to hell in your living room.

So, my opinion, is if you want to keep them, neutralize them by keeping them in the salted foil or donate them to a museum. Clear your home and be grateful that you know this knowledge to preclude anything negative coming your way.

Saturday, July 3, 2010

KS&L 67 Independence Day

What does Independence Day mean on a spiritual level? Perhaps it just means the freedom to be spiritual in any manner we wish. Maybe it is looking around the world and noticing where that freedom exists and how it was gained. Maybe it is looking around ourselves and noticing what we had to do to be free from that which has tormented us emotionally for a very long time.

Either way we look at it, gaining independence either from a petty despot, or an emotional prison requires some type of effort, some type of sacrifice. We cannot define independence if we do not know what imprisonment looks and feels like - obviously a polarity issue. So we have to fight for what we believe in, we have to fight for what is the right thing to do and sometimes we have to have help to achieve that independence.

Often, it is extremely difficult to remove a powerful despot as we have observed throughout history - we just have to have help. If imprisonment is the norm, how do we have any conception of what freedom feels like unless we are aware enough to know that we long for it? If we are numb to our situation, we stay in denial, we stay in a place of fear.

If we choose to come out of that situation, it can be really, really scary - most people at least know what the torture routine is. If we have to leave what we know to understand something new, we have to have a whole new level of courage and the number of people who have that level is not as high as we think or would like it to be.

Emotionally, we have to have help to remove that emotional despot/monster who has tormented us, sometimes for life times. Help that is often costly in what we realize we have to leave behind. Imagine that the people who left Europe for the United States had nothing but their courage in their pockets. Most of them had modest means. Yet they longed to know what it would feel like not to be imprisioned.

People who declare their independence from their secret torturers, their old fears, their guilt and sadness also arrive usually with little more than their courage in their pockets. Yet, it is that very courage within them that gets them through as they accept help.

So just maybe the bottom line for any type of independence is the very, very, very first freedom of all, courage. So to all those courageous people throughout history, to all those who have fought for their emotional freedom for themselves and/or others, Happy Independence Day now and for always.